Since becoming a parent almost five years  ago I have realized a few things. I am significantly more laxed than other parents because life is too short to get on your kids about every little thing. This next one is hard for me to even say because I do not know when I let it happen or how it happened. I let people step in and parent my child. Not in the big life moments or decisions but the little tifts at playgroup or hanging out at a friends house. I think somewhere along the way in the last five years I have tried that whole  dont step on someones toes whose trying to correct your child. Because you are "supposed" to let other people not discipline but correct your kid when he is wrong so that he respects adults beyond mommy and daddy.

  The more I write and talk about it it makes me sick to thing somewhere between his birth and now I have failed him in letting others correct him. The majority of the time the things he does are minor and the parent or family member is just annoyed because it isn't something they like or feel comfortable with themselves. 90% of the time he is not doing anything wrong and "gets in trouble"with the parent or family member.

  Instead of standing up for my son I just let them say their peace and go on with the day. It was actually when I was talking my husband about it about a month ago telling him a situation that happened earlier on at a playdate and he said "Dont let them talk to him like that if it bothers you." 

 From that moment on I sarted realizing and seeing all the moments it was about to happen and still didnt do or say much. I might pipe up here or there but never really defend my son. I just let the parent say their peace and move on.

   It was today when I made a video talking about him and all of the wonderful things that make him him that I thought why would I let anyone stifle or crush his spirit because they dont like that he turned over a few rocks. He's a kid, he's curious and when I asked him about it he said" I found bugs underneath." So why not let him flip over the rocks.

Today I am going to make a change and stand up for my son because if I dont how  will he learn to stand up for himself in life and future harder situations especially if its something he is wrongfully accused of just because it seems like something he would do. He has a good head on his shoulders and again there is the 10% of mischief from the 90 that I didnt mention but he gets a bad rap all the time. I am sick of it. I was put on this earth to protect my children and that includes adults stepping on him because they wouldn't let their kid do that. It's not their place to say something. It is mine.